I was touched by Dan's message, but I think the reason he got into the situation to get the bruised heart was because there is really no way to accurately judge how someone is going to be *in person* by lengthy e--mails and phone calls. Too much of the context of living is divorced from those situations to accurately judge how perfect someone is going to be (and no one is perfect.) I think at times , especially among the #sinister folk, I have alienated them by saying how stupid internet long distance relationships are. Well, I have changed my stance. It can work, but only when the people meet initially and use the medium to communicate cheaply. Because then you knew what they were like in person before you went on your best guess as it were. I mean, I guess the other is possible too, but it's not as likely and is certainly not a situation I would get myself into. Hmmm. This message was to reassure Dan, but I have a feeling I have opened a can of worms. Sorry. Brandt +----------------------------------------------------------------------+ +---+ Brought to you by the reborn Sinister mailing list +---+ To send to the list mail "sinister@majordomo.net". To unsubscribe send "unsubscribe sinister" or "unsubscribe sinister-digest" to "majordomo@majordomo.net". WWW: http://www.majordomo.net/sinister +-+ "legion of bedroom saddo devotees" "tech-heads and students" +-+ +-+ "the cardie wearing biscuit nibbling belle & sebastian list" +-+ +-+ "jelly-filled danishes" +-+ +----------------------------------------------------------------------+