On Tue, Mar 12, 2002 at 07:02:32PM -0500, Jenny Payne wrote:
"the japanese have a word 'amae' which describes that warm feeling of being accepted, included and understood by a group of peers. so rare, so amazing when it happens. sinister at its best moments can produce 'amae', i suspect."
There are so many *good* things about the list... and I think Rachel was spot-on with her above description.
Not to be contrary, but that's not entirely what amae means. (I won't attempt to butcher it myself.) It is however, a really fascinating concept. I encourage everyone to go out and buy or borrow a copy of Takeo Doi's "The Anatomy of Dependence", which is sort of the classical work examining amae and its significance in Japanese social psychology. It's good stuff, I got a copy for like $10 off of some used book site. m. -- "she's my fave / undressing in the sun / return to sea -- bye forgetting everyone / eleven high / ride a wave" -- The Pixies, Ana +-------------------------------------------------------------------------+ +---+ Brought to you by the Sinister mailing list +---+ To send to the list mail sinister@missprint.org. To unsubscribe send "unsubscribe sinister" or "unsubscribe sinister-digest" to majordomo@missprint.org. WWW: http://www.missprint.org/sinister +-+ "sinsietr is a bit freaky" - stuart david, looper +-+ +-+ "legion of bedroom saddo devotees" "peculiarly deranged fanbase" +-+ +-+ "pasty-faced vegan geeks... and we LOST!" - NME April 2000 +-+ +-+ "frighteningly named Sinister List organisation" - NME May 2000 +-+ +-+ "sick posse of f**ked in the head psycho-fans" - NME June 2001 +-+ +-+ Nee, nee mun pish, chan pai dee kwa +-+ +-+ Snipp snapp snut, sa var sagan slut! +-+ +-------------------------------------------------------------------------+