In a message dated 7/5/99 1:48:08 AM Eastern Daylight Time, isolation@mediaone.net writes: << At any rate... let me get to the point here... the "magic" and fun and excitement of crushes can only end. Once you get to know the person this overwhelming loving feeling disolves into either a comfortable relationship or nothing at all. and comfortable relationships can be so dull and unsatisfying. I hate being comfortable... the magic will fade and everything will become stagnant. The new face becomes an old hat and you can either move on or make the best of it. >> I have to agree Gibby, although I try to convince myself to be more optimistic about the whole affair. It's pretty evident that almost always the thought of someone is better than the actual person because people have this insane tendency to endow their "mystery girls/guys" with attributes that they can never really live up to. Eventually it becomes a let down when you find out that the girl in your English class really doesn't stay up late at night reading E.M Forster, or that in all actuality Dream Guy" has never heard of the Wannadies and would probably think they suck if he had. Its sort of a vicious circle in which people set themselves up for failure by expecting the most perfect thing in existance where a normal human being would do. On the other hand though, there is something nice about this whole lopsided transaction in that it exists at all. The fact that people love the idea of romance and affection enough to keep dreaming of people they've never met seems to be a very uplifiting turn of events. Eventually we all find someone who either meets our extremely high demands or we finally learn not to place any, and things work out. But the fact that in the face of such depression and letdowns this world continually belts you upside the head with, people still have the internal urge to seek out beauty and perfection is a pretty romantic idea in and of itself. I'll admit it is terribly dissapointing to stay up late at night dreaming of finally talking to the beautiful girl/guy three rows up in Biology only to find they're much less than what you expected, but the next day things don't seem to bad...and then you notice the girl behing the counter at the Donut Shack and its another two weeks of fragmented sleep. Oh well. "The Great Gatsby" deals with alot of similar ideas this one, which is probably why its probably the most comforting book I've ever read. Old Sport... Anyway, thats anough analysis before breakfast...later Steve C. +----------------------------------------------------------------------+ +---+ Brought to you by the reborn Sinister mailing list +---+ To send to the list mail "sinister@majordomo.net". To unsubscribe send "unsubscribe sinister" or "unsubscribe sinister-digest" to "majordomo@majordomo.net". WWW: http://www.majordomo.net/sinister +-+ "legion of bedroom saddo devotees" "tech-heads and students" +-+ +-+ "the cardie wearing biscuit nibbling belle & sebastian list" +-+ +-+ "jelly-filled danishes" +-+ +----------------------------------------------------------------------+