Valentine's Day seems to have got many of us thinking about "homo amorous" ("wo/man in love." is that an acceptable construction?) with various degrees of sadness so I thought I would chime in with my take on the whole thing which may be peculiar but has kept me out of bad moods for a couple of years now. In short, I simply don't buy it. I ruined high school and most of college in search of my soul mate and figuring everyone who fancied me back was the one (thus I was crushed every time they proved to be otherwise). I have decided that there is no such thing as a soul mate, the thing to do is find someone who is interested in doing what you are interested in doing and that you are interested in doing that with each other. Don't put anything beyond that onto what you are up to (unless/until it sincerely develops). It may sound less than romantic but it seems to be a more honest and more healthy way to go about doing things (at least for me). All the mysterious gaming that goes on is compounded by the mythic proportions "love" has been awarded to create a situation where most of us will feel like we are missing out most of the time and that we need to hold on to anyone who remotely resembles a safe haven even at the expense of our dignity, self esteem and emotional well being. So ... buck up!! You all like good music and you are interesting and entertaining enough that people genuinely look forward to hearing from you (at least I do). Now ... how do you do a group hug on-line? Stewart [Amour Fou is always illegal, whether it's disguised as a marriage or a boyscout troop--always drunk, whether on the wine of its own secretions or the smoke of its own polymorphous virtues. It is not the derangement of the senses but rather their apotheosis--not the result of freedom but rather its precondition. - Hakim Bey] _________________________________________________________________ Send and receive Hotmail on your mobile device: http://mobile.msn.com +-------------------------------------------------------------------------+ +---+ Brought to you by the Sinister mailing list +---+ To send to the list mail sinister@missprint.org. To unsubscribe send "unsubscribe sinister" or "unsubscribe sinister-digest" to majordomo@missprint.org. WWW: http://www.missprint.org/sinister +-+ "sinsietr is a bit freaky" - stuart david, looper +-+ +-+ "legion of bedroom saddo devotees" "peculiarly deranged fanbase" +-+ +-+ "pasty-faced vegan geeks... and we LOST!" - NME April 2000 +-+ +-+ "frighteningly named Sinister List organisation" - NME May 2000 +-+ +-+ "sick posse of f**ked in the head psycho-fans" - NME June 2001 +-+ +-+ Nee, nee mun pish, chan pai dee kwa +-+ +-+ Snipp snapp snut, sa var sagan slut! +-+ +-------------------------------------------------------------------------+