"I must say though Scott, I've always preferred caring for those you love above leadership skills and sometimes you have to make hard decisions in upsetting circumstances that leave you open to criticism later. I had a bit much of the leadership skills from Mrs Thatcher. Just a comment. honey x" _________________________________ oh, i whole-heartedly agree with you. I wrote that assuming that isobel had the same thing that i had for two weeks- in which i had people i loved care for me alot, while also they were also able to attend to the other responsibilities in their lives. Thats all i was trying to say. And I'm also talking from behind a foggy glass of not-knowing just how bad isobel was when they made their decision- If it was something alot more urgent for care and attendance to her health than I definitely think they were in the right for cancelling- maybe i'm just relating her flu/ virus experience too much to the one I had just gotten over in philly, where i felt like pure hell in a toilet, but knowing it was the flu, didn't feel the same urgency that maybe she did, having the allergy(?) to it and all. Do you rememeber my disclaimer at the top of the email- I'm sorry if you thought i was being some general patton type of guy or something- i was really talking about the complexity of care and responsibilities that I was guessing were there in the situation. I'm talking about a care and love also that extends beyond the mircocosm of the members of the band... to us (and, please, give me some credit, i'm not saying we are more important than her health), and again, I don't know all the details of the extent of her illness. I'm just trying to open up the complexity of repsonsibility of the situation, and am not trying to oppose care and some Thatcherite expression of leadership. sincerely .scott +----------------------------------------------------------------------+ +---+ Brought to you by the Sinister mailing list +---+ To send to the list please mail "sinister@majordomo.net". To unsubscribe send "unsubscribe sinister" or "unsubscribe sinister-digest" to "majordomo@majordomo.net". For list archives and searching, list rules, FAQ, poor jokes etc, see http://www.majordomo.net/sinister +---+ "legion of bedroom saddo devotees" +---+ +-+ "the cardie wearing biscuit nibbling belle & sebastian list" +-+ +----------------------------------------------------------------------+