It was back in '97 or so, right around the time that _...Sinister_ came out, that I first heard B&S. Shortly after that the list was born that this list is a child of. In January of '98 I met Elizabeth Daplyn on that list. We flirted through emails and then the telephone until I flew from Chicago (where I continue to reside) to England to meet her. Our relationship lasted one year, and during that time I went to England four times, and she came to America twice. We went to one B&S picnic together in NYC, but I never had the opportunity to have the delicious cakes. She and I were far too busy to bake ;-) Two weeks before the bombings on July 7, Yahoo lost my entire address book. I couldn't otherwise find Liz's address, so I couldn't contact her. I joined this list again (having dropped my subscription several years ago due to time restrictions) to try to contact her. My emails bounced because, until yesterday, I was in the nursery. Thankfully Amanda, an old friend from the list now living in England, emailed me to tell me that Liz was on the list of missing. That was July 11th. Through diligent detective work I was able to get a hold of Liz's sister, Eleanor, and her Mom, Pam. I've been in touch with them since the 12th. Needless to say her tragic death has hurt me deeply. Liz and I loved each other very much, and there was no hurt between us due to the break up. Neither of us were going to move across the Atlantic, so it was a mutual agreement. Communication waned over the years, and the last time I spoke to her on the phone was September 11, '01. She called to make sure I was OK. It tears me up that I couldn't do the same for her. When the B&S DVD came out I consumed it. I spent many hours going through every nook and cranny it had to offer. By the end it made me cry. I guess I was sad it was over. I emailed Liz to ask her what her thoughts were on the DVD. She was dissapointed that it wasn't more complete. That was the last communication we had. It will be impossible for me to attend the funeral tomorrow, but as it's been everyday since July 11th, my heart will be with Eleanor and Pam and the family I never met and Rob, whom I should like to meet someday as we share such a special commonality. I don't know that I'll ever be able to listen to B&S again without crying. Love to you all, and thank you again Amanda. Aadam +-------------------------------------------------------------------------+ +---+ Brought to you by the Sinister mailing list +---+ To send to the list mail sinister@missprint.org. To unsubscribe send "unsubscribe sinister" or "unsubscribe sinister-digest" to majordomo@missprint.org. WWW: http://www.missprint.org/sinister +-+ "sinsietr is a bit freaky" - stuart david, looper +-+ +-+ "legion of bedroom saddo devotees" "peculiarly deranged fanbase" +-+ +-+ "pasty-faced vegan geeks... and we LOST!" - NME April 2000 +-+ +-+ "frighteningly named Sinister List organisation" - NME May 2000 +-+ +-+ "sick posse of f**ked in the head psycho-fans" - NME June 2001 +-+ +-+ Nee, nee mun pish, chan pai dee kwa +-+ +-+ Snipp snapp snut, sa var sagan slut! +-+ +-------------------------------------------------------------------------+