Don't read any further if you haven't seen Chasing Amy, well, if you still want to see it =) First of all I recommend you (Lesley Jo) see the movie first. I understand where you are coming from, as much as I can through just reading what you have said. However, I have never met anyone who has seen the movie and thought that they were more educated on the nature of lesbianism or the like (you mentioned a girl who had said that to you, but that is just one person, and probably a confused one at that). The fact that the writer is a heterosexual male should not be that big of an issue because IMHO it's not as if the whole movie centers around the lesbian community. Yeah, there is one lesbian and she has a small group of lesbian friends, but the primary focus is on a (narcissistic, yes, but who isn't to some degree, and I think Ben Affleck comes off that way all the time anyways) heterosexual male who happens to fall in love with a lesbian, a subject that many heterosexual males can sympathize with I'm sure. The fact that the girl ends up falling for the guy and "changes" (at least on the surface) her sexual preference may be a bit far-fetched, but it can and does happen, however infrequent. Now, if you're idea of a lesbian is someone who has been that way from birth, of course that is a ridiculous and male-influenced fantasy, but not all lesbians feel they have been attracted to females from birth. It's just not that cut and dry for everyone. That is, however, an entirely separate discussion. Just like any surfacing topic in society, there is always going to be a movie or book that attempts to define the topic, but more often that not it is considerably misinformed and out-of-date by the people who are affected by the topic in question. I understand that you may think that because of this movie now all heterosexual males who have seen it will think that they can "change" or influence their lesbian friend to fall in love with them and switch teams, but give us (boys) some credit. There are going to be guys who believe that, but they, more likely than not, believed that before they went to the movie. I'm not saying the movie is beyond reproach, but I say give it a chance. I personally think it was a touching piece on the nature of love (between two humans, regardless of gender). And please don't take this as coming from a "heterosexual" biased male, because first off I can't say I am heterosexual anymore than I can claim to be homosexual, and secondly I consider myself if anything much more anti-male (testosterone ones to be exact) than anti-female. Bottom line I guess is, yeah there are some offensive scenes in the movie from a gay perspective but don't trash the entire movie because of them. Anyways, I hope this was seen more as an addendum to what you said rather than a counterpoint. And if any of my statements weren't well thought out enough, please be so kind as to discuss them with me rather than chalk them up to ignorance =) Sorry for the lack of B&S content, I seem to be notorious for that...but what can I possibly say of interest about them when I have probably the least amount of contact with them? All I want to say is they're divine over and over again, but I'm sure you kids already know that... hugs and more hugs, Justin W "I want to be good, but good is being simple. Simple is forgetting...I simply can't forget." - The Judybats +----------------------------------------------------------------------+ +---+ Brought to you by the reborn Sinister mailing list +---+ To send to the list mail "sinister@majordomo.net". To unsubscribe send "unsubscribe sinister" or "unsubscribe sinister-digest" to "majordomo@majordomo.net". WWW: http://www.majordomo.net/sinister +-+ "legion of bedroom saddo devotees" "tech-heads and students" +-+ +-+ "the cardie wearing biscuit nibbling belle & sebastian list" +-+ +-+ "jelly-filled danishes" +-+ +----------------------------------------------------------------------+