Sinister: lower than low

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In a message dated 7/5/99 1:48:08 AM Eastern Daylight Time, 
isolation at mediaone.net writes:

<< At any rate...  let me get to the point here... the "magic" and fun and
 excitement of crushes can only end.  Once you get to know the person this
 overwhelming loving feeling disolves into either a comfortable relationship
 or nothing at all.  and comfortable relationships can be so dull and
 unsatisfying.  I hate being comfortable... the magic will fade and
 everything will become stagnant.  The new face becomes an old hat and you
 can either move on or make the best of it. >>

I have to agree Gibby, although I try to convince myself to be more 
optimistic about the whole affair.  It's pretty evident that almost always 
the thought of someone is better than the actual person because people have 
this insane tendency to endow their "mystery girls/guys" with attributes that 
they can never really live up to. Eventually it becomes a let down when you 
find out that the girl in your English class really doesn't stay up late at 
night reading E.M Forster, or that in all actuality Dream Guy" has never 
heard of the Wannadies and would probably think they suck if he had.  Its 
sort of a vicious circle in which people set themselves up for failure by 
expecting the most perfect thing in existance where a normal human being 
would do.
On the other hand though, there is something nice about this whole lopsided 
transaction in that it exists at all.  The fact that people love the idea of 
romance and affection enough to keep dreaming of people they've never met 
seems to be a very uplifiting turn of events.  Eventually we all find someone 
who either meets our extremely high demands or we finally learn not to place 
any, and things work out.  But the fact that in the face of such depression 
and letdowns this world continually belts you upside the head with, people 
still have the internal urge to seek out beauty and perfection is a pretty 
romantic idea in and of itself.  I'll admit it is terribly dissapointing to 
stay up late at night dreaming of finally talking to the beautiful girl/guy 
three rows up in Biology only to find they're much less than what you 
expected, but the next day things don't seem to bad...and then you notice the 
girl behing the counter at the Donut Shack and its another two weeks of 
fragmented sleep.  Oh well.
"The Great Gatsby" deals with alot of similar ideas this one, which is 
probably why its probably the most comforting book I've ever read.  Old 
Sport...
Anyway, thats anough analysis before breakfast...later

Steve C.
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