Sinister: Hard news

[honey at xxx.org]

Very hard mail to write.  I've been trying to decide when/if to write
this, but some of you will know Liz Daplyn, long-term member of the
list, and a truly lovely person.  I hope everyone who knows her has
heard about this already and I'm not delivering some awful shock
to a friend of hers, but she's now counted as one of the missing
from the London bombings.  Her picture appearing on the front of
yesterday's Independent on Sunday newspaper was too much for me not
to post this, after waiting some time for news after first hearing.
There's always hope, but a few people have suggested strongly I mail
the list, and I think maybe they're right now.

I know Liz less than others (and I'm going to stubbornly continue in
the present tense for now) and I don't want to fall into the trap of
eulogising the missing, but she always struck me as a very special
person.  The few times I met her, I felt like I was in a very safe
warm protective bubble talking to her.  Whenever we met, she seemed
unfailingly kind, while having the gift of being extremely witty
without ever sounding caustic, and totally engaged in whatever she
was doing and whoever she was with.  She sent me unexpected cards
and emails on my birthday, out of the blue, apologising for being
a poor correspondent when she was such a thoughtful caring one.
One of earth's kindest inventions.

I don't think now is the time for extensive comment about this on the
list, except of course from those who are her friends and feel they
want to, who are very welcome for whatever reason.  The list archives
will last forever, so please remember that 5 years from now, they will
appear in Google.  Remember her family, and those who love her who
may be reading this, and let's be subdued and careful in response.
And please please don't use Liz as a reason to widen comment about
the events in London, or political rant.  Liz must not be turned into
some spark for political debate; she must be allowed to remain lovely,
engaging, kind-hearted Liz.

My thoughts are with those on the list who know her much better than I
do, and one in particular.  I don't think I can say any more to them
than how much I feel for their agonising wait and pain, and how much
I think of Liz.

Honey
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